Hear speask Kevin's mother in different situations. what do you think? Which of her sentences are spoken in a right way?
"Don't you know, that small children don't use knives."
"When you touch the knife,you will be hurt because, it is sharp."
"Don't you have eves. Look how sharp the knife is."
"Kevin, why are you shouting like this. If you shout like this, how can I put the baby to sleep."
"Kevin, how many times I told you not to make noise, when the baby sleeps."
"Kevin, the baby wants to sleep. Please try to understand."
"kevin reduce the sound of the radio; so the baby can sleep well with no disturbance."
"Kevin, if you finish painting, tidy up the table. I want to arrange the table for lunch."
"kevin don't forget to clean the table. I think you know the reason."
"Nice boys clean the tables after painting."
All of you know the sentences in blue colour are correct. Why they are correct? Because they have reasons in them. Reasoning is a good tool to guid your child. So don't forget to give the reason when request any thing from your child.
To know more about reasoning click here: Guide your child through reasoning
This page is not only for parents. All of we have contact with children. So everybody must know about children. Why don't we learn to deal with them in a positive way.
Wednesday, 23 June 2010
Monday, 14 June 2010
Role model
Being a role model is a good technic to guide your children. Children imitate adults who are warm to them and whom they respect.
"Kevin, it is eight O'clock. You should get up early," told kevin's father who was still on bed on a Saturday morning.
What is wrong here. kevin's father only advise kevin but, fail to be a good role model.
"Sare, come here quickly. look, how did I tidy up my room. Now look at your room. Go and tidy up your room right now. If not you can't have your snack," shouted Sara's mother.
What is wrong here? Though Sara's mother was a good role model, she had failed to be warm to Sara.
"Oh! these carrots are very tasty. Lena come and try these carrots. These are good for your skin and eyes," told Lena's mother who was eating carrots.
Lena's mother was a good role model. At the same time she was warm also. Lena always respect her mother as she is always warm to lena. So lena hapily imitats her mother. It is easy for Lena's mother to guide Lena through being a good role model.
To know further about ROLE MODEL click here. Guidance and role model
"Kevin, it is eight O'clock. You should get up early," told kevin's father who was still on bed on a Saturday morning.
What is wrong here. kevin's father only advise kevin but, fail to be a good role model.
"Sare, come here quickly. look, how did I tidy up my room. Now look at your room. Go and tidy up your room right now. If not you can't have your snack," shouted Sara's mother.
What is wrong here? Though Sara's mother was a good role model, she had failed to be warm to Sara.
"Oh! these carrots are very tasty. Lena come and try these carrots. These are good for your skin and eyes," told Lena's mother who was eating carrots.
Lena's mother was a good role model. At the same time she was warm also. Lena always respect her mother as she is always warm to lena. So lena hapily imitats her mother. It is easy for Lena's mother to guide Lena through being a good role model.
To know further about ROLE MODEL click here. Guidance and role model
Thursday, 3 June 2010
Guide with consistent approach
Every child must be guide by an appropriate adult. So the person who has contact with must his guiding skill. Now here I would like to write a problem which I notice every where. Mainly I see this problem in houses where, there are more than one adult to guide the child. The adults give importance to their own opinion and use their own method. So the child finds it difficult to understand which is the correct way. The adults must speak together and select a consistent method to guide the child.
Four year old Tim had finished cutting papers and painting them. Now he was tired. he came out of the room and cried, "mummy, I am hungry." Sara,his mother peeped into his room and started to shout, " Tim, how many times I told you to tidy up your room after cutting papers." "Oh! Mummy, I do it later. Now I am hungry," begged Tim. "No, you must tidy it up it right now," cried the mother.
"Oh, Sara don't be so rude. He is so small to tidy up his room. Let him have his lunch," told Tim's grand father.
"Don't get angry Sara. I tidy up his room instead of him,"Told Tim's grand mother.
"Tim, come. We'll tidy up the room together," Tim's father held Tim's finger and brought Tim to his room. Then he started to tidy up the room. Tim join with him to tidy up the room. The room was tidied up very quickly. Then Tim and his father went happily to the dining table.
There are four people try to guide Tim. What is missing here? The consistent approach is missing here. The adults are using their own method to guide Tim. Though Tim's father has selected the correct way to guide Tim, it may not be more effective because, there is no consistent approach.
For further reading click here: Guidance and consistent approach
Four year old Tim had finished cutting papers and painting them. Now he was tired. he came out of the room and cried, "mummy, I am hungry." Sara,his mother peeped into his room and started to shout, " Tim, how many times I told you to tidy up your room after cutting papers." "Oh! Mummy, I do it later. Now I am hungry," begged Tim. "No, you must tidy it up it right now," cried the mother.
"Oh, Sara don't be so rude. He is so small to tidy up his room. Let him have his lunch," told Tim's grand father.
"Don't get angry Sara. I tidy up his room instead of him,"Told Tim's grand mother.
"Tim, come. We'll tidy up the room together," Tim's father held Tim's finger and brought Tim to his room. Then he started to tidy up the room. Tim join with him to tidy up the room. The room was tidied up very quickly. Then Tim and his father went happily to the dining table.
There are four people try to guide Tim. What is missing here? The consistent approach is missing here. The adults are using their own method to guide Tim. Though Tim's father has selected the correct way to guide Tim, it may not be more effective because, there is no consistent approach.
For further reading click here: Guidance and consistent approach
Sunday, 30 May 2010
HANDS AND FINGERS
Pre school children can use pencil and caryons. They can use scissors also. They like to draw, colour and paste. With these skills they are eager to do some art and craft activities. They need help when doing craft activities.
* Help them only when they need.
* Encourage them to talk about their works (drawing or craft work).
* Hang their works in their room, kitchen or in the living room.
PUZZLES AND BUILDING BLOGS
As they develop short term memories provide them age appropriate puzzles and building blogs.Puzzles and blogs also help them to develop their hand and finger muscles.
* When a child starts to use puzzle or building blog the activity should be finished.
* If your child finds it difficult to finish help it to finish but don't do the whole thing.
* Help them only when they need.
* Encourage them to talk about their works (drawing or craft work).
* Hang their works in their room, kitchen or in the living room.
PUZZLES AND BUILDING BLOGS
As they develop short term memories provide them age appropriate puzzles and building blogs.Puzzles and blogs also help them to develop their hand and finger muscles.
* When a child starts to use puzzle or building blog the activity should be finished.
* If your child finds it difficult to finish help it to finish but don't do the whole thing.
Friday, 21 May 2010
EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT
Preschool children develop likes and dislikes. As they can express their feelilgs verbaly, they start to speek in this way:
"I hate you,"
"I hate your present,"
"Go away,"
"Get out" and
"Shut up."
These style of speeking should not be encouraged or ignored. Train your children when, where and how to express their feelings. Train your children not to hurt others feelings, when expressing their own feelings. Teach them to express their feeling in a polite manner. Speak polite in front of them. Be a good role model.
It was Kevin's birthday. Kevin's aunt brought a present for him. Kevin was dissapointed when he opened the parcel because, it a was a book. Kevin has no intrest in books. So he through it away and told,"I hate it." Kevin's mother took the book, hugged kevin and started to speek in a soft vioce, "kevin look your aunt's face. She is worried. you could say, ' Aunt, I can't read books now. But I can read this book when I grow up. Thank you for your present.'"
As kevin found this way of speeking good, he said the same to his aunt. The aunt was happy. Kevin also.
"I hate you,"
"I hate your present,"
"Go away,"
"Get out" and
"Shut up."
These style of speeking should not be encouraged or ignored. Train your children when, where and how to express their feelings. Train your children not to hurt others feelings, when expressing their own feelings. Teach them to express their feeling in a polite manner. Speak polite in front of them. Be a good role model.
It was Kevin's birthday. Kevin's aunt brought a present for him. Kevin was dissapointed when he opened the parcel because, it a was a book. Kevin has no intrest in books. So he through it away and told,"I hate it." Kevin's mother took the book, hugged kevin and started to speek in a soft vioce, "kevin look your aunt's face. She is worried. you could say, ' Aunt, I can't read books now. But I can read this book when I grow up. Thank you for your present.'"
As kevin found this way of speeking good, he said the same to his aunt. The aunt was happy. Kevin also.
Monday, 17 May 2010
FEAR
Preschool age (3-5) children show fear of dark, animal, water, seperation and death. Though these fears are normal for their age, the fears must be overcome by the help of the adults.
* Don't think these fears will vanish automatically when they grow up.
* Don't tease them for their fears.
* don't scold them for their fears.
* Deal with these fears carefully.
* Overcoming these fears will take time. you should have patience.
* Buy an appropriate picture book about fears and read it to them.
* Don't think these fears will vanish automatically when they grow up.
* Don't tease them for their fears.
* don't scold them for their fears.
* Deal with these fears carefully.
* Overcoming these fears will take time. you should have patience.
* Buy an appropriate picture book about fears and read it to them.
Sunday, 16 May 2010
SELF HELP SKILLS
Per school age (3-5): A period to prepare for school and furtre.
Preschool children-Self help skills
*They can be toilet trained;
*They can get a snack when they are hungry;
*They can dress themselves;
*They can decied to take rest when they are tired.
This does not mean that can care for themselves. They still need adults help and supervision.
*Let them do these tasks on their own.
*Help them when they asks for help.
*Admire them when they do these tasks alone but, please don't tease or scold them when they find it difficult to do on their own. Every child is a unique . They need their own time.
Preschool children-Self help skills
*They can be toilet trained;
*They can get a snack when they are hungry;
*They can dress themselves;
*They can decied to take rest when they are tired.
This does not mean that can care for themselves. They still need adults help and supervision.
*Let them do these tasks on their own.
*Help them when they asks for help.
*Admire them when they do these tasks alone but, please don't tease or scold them when they find it difficult to do on their own. Every child is a unique . They need their own time.
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