Reasoning

Hear speask Kevin's mother in different situations. what do you think? Which of her sentences are spoken in a right way?

"Don't you know, that small children don't use knives."
"When you touch the knife,you will be hurt because, it is sharp."
"Don't you have eves. Look how sharp the knife is."

"Kevin, why are you shouting like this. If you shout like this, how can I put the baby to sleep."
"Kevin, how many times I told you not to make noise, when the baby sleeps."
"Kevin, the baby wants to sleep. Please try to understand."
"kevin reduce the sound of the radio; so the baby can sleep well with no disturbance."

"Kevin, if you finish painting, tidy up the table. I want to arrange the table for lunch."
"kevin don't forget to clean the table. I think you know the reason."
"Nice boys clean the tables after painting."

All of you know the sentences in blue colour are correct. Why they are correct? Because they have reasons in them. Reasoning is a good tool to guid your child. So don't forget to give the reason when request any thing from your child.

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Role model

Being a role model is a good technic to guide your children. Children imitate adults who are warm to them and whom they respect.

"Kevin, it is eight O'clock. You should get up early," told kevin's father who was still on bed on a Saturday morning.

What is wrong here. kevin's father only advise kevin but, fail to be a good role model.

"Sare, come here quickly. look, how did I tidy up my room. Now look at your room. Go and tidy up your room right now. If not you can't have your snack," shouted Sara's mother.

What is wrong here? Though Sara's mother was a good role model, she had failed to be warm to Sara.

"Oh! these carrots are very tasty. Lena come and try these carrots. These are good for your skin and eyes," told Lena's mother who was eating carrots.

Lena's mother was a good role model. At the same time she was warm also. Lena always respect her mother as she is always warm to lena. So lena hapily imitats her mother. It is easy for Lena's mother to guide Lena through being a good role model.

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Guide with consistent approach

Every child must be guide by an appropriate adult. So the person who has contact with must his guiding skill. Now here I would like to write a problem which I notice every where. Mainly I see this problem in houses where, there are more than one adult to guide the child. The adults give importance to their own opinion and use their own method. So the child finds it difficult to understand which is the correct way. The adults must speak together and select a consistent method to guide the child.

Four year old Tim had finished cutting papers and painting them. Now he was tired. he came out of the room and cried, "mummy, I am hungry." Sara,his mother peeped into his room and started to shout, " Tim, how many times I told you to tidy up your room after cutting papers." "Oh! Mummy, I do it later. Now I am hungry," begged Tim. "No, you must tidy it up it right now," cried the mother.

"Oh, Sara don't be so rude. He is so small to tidy up his room. Let him have his lunch," told Tim's grand father.

"Don't get angry Sara. I tidy up his room instead of him,"Told Tim's grand mother.

"Tim, come. We'll tidy up the room together," Tim's father held Tim's finger and brought Tim to his room. Then he started to tidy up the room. Tim join with him to tidy up the room. The room was tidied up very quickly. Then Tim and his father went happily to the dining table.

There are four people try to guide Tim. What is missing here? The consistent approach is missing here. The adults are using their own method to guide Tim. Though Tim's father has selected the correct way to guide Tim, it may not be more effective because, there is no consistent approach.

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